Trigger Warning: (sort of) SA
Tonight I possibly saw what I might call a version of sexual assault … I think?
There was this guy who was wandering around trying to insert himself into any possible situation he could. If two guys were making out he’d stand super close—like as close as a person possibly could without actually touching and try and make eye contact or do like make out air guitar at their face. Or if one guy was getting fucked he’d stand behind the top super close. It was A N N O Y I N G and kinda throwing off the “vibe,” as folks say.
This went on basically the entire night but there is one particular interaction I’d like to highlight. These three guys came in and were being pretty loud. They were obviously drunk and one of the three was extremely drunk and kept saying he wanted to suck a dick—a specific rather large dick on display, actually. The two slightly less drunk ones were guiding him through steps and egging him on. They told him to take off his shirt first and hyping him up. It kinda felt like they were not regulars to these sorts of spaces, or at least maybe not the super drunk friend.
So, they got the friend shirtless and aimed in the direction of the giant duck and were egging him on and, just then, the sex pest swooped in and was all over him. He clearly identified the guy as an easy target—out of it and beyond the point of consent and took advantage of that. It didn’t go too far/long but it was awful. His friends just watched. I was about to step in but then it dissolved. It’s possible someone stopped it and I didn’t see.
Thankfully the super drunk guy left shortly afterwards. He shouldn’t have been there at all. I don’t mean that in a victim-blaming way but like … he was just so wrecked. And he maybe needs some new friends. Or, at least friends who can recognize when someone is too drunk to fuck?