OVER TAPPING

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I’m fairly confident that I used to be an over tapper/woofer on the apps. I blame it on OCD somewhat though I don’t want to make excuses for myself because it’s definitely a form a harassment; at least, *I* feel harassed when overtapped/overwoofed—looking at you “hairy hung couple.” But I do try and have empathy for people doing it because I do “get” it though I can be pretty quick with a block. I’m honestly surprised I didn’t get blocked more in the past.

For me, the tapping was sometimes late night sexual frustration. Other times it was just a weird boredom muscle memory thing where I’d just not have anything on my mind and would open my phone and click an app and start tapping people before I was even aware what I was doing. Occasionally, it was just that I genuinely forgot I’d tapped someone recently because all guys on the apps kinda look like one of five or so gay guy archetypes or literally an anonymous torso. But I definitely did it.

The interesting thing about going to darkrooms is that it seems to have cured me of the over tapping. In fact, I barely tap any more and there are days when I don’t even really engage much with the apps. I won’t say I don’t engage at all but my overall app use is way down. Like, way down. And I like it. I am, like, the last person I ever thought would say this but it’s better interacting with people IRL. Why tap a torso when you can tap an actual ass bent over a table, amirite? Haha.